Thursday, December 24, 2009
away lays a stranger
no bed or a sheet
the cold wind is blowing
down the dark street
no where to go daily
the moonshine is bright
everyone disowns her
she lives in such fright
some shadows are moving
they are drawing near
they are disapproving
she only knows fear
she knows they hate her
she knows that they kill
she knows all the time
she has to take her pill
the others have blankets
the others have a bed
the others have no problem
they are warm and fed
she only wants comfort
she only wants plans
they turn their back on her
for they know she is trans
Robyn Carolyn Montague
Monday, December 21, 2009
Definitions of 'Myopia': A selfish condition where the vision is only seen close at hand for oneself, rather than the result in the long term goals for all.
Myopic activism: How one only sees how it affects them personally, rather than for the common good of the Community.
Myopic: Where there is no L, G, B, or T in the word as a common goal, where should be, there should be none without that thought of LGBT as one.
Definition of Coherent: co⋅her⋅ent /koʊˈhɪərənt, -ˈhɛr-/ –adjective 1. logically connected; consistent: a coherent argument. 2. cohering; sticking together:
Coherent Activism: Working together, with equality for the entire Community as one shared and common vision, without division.
Where we must be, is a common voice for our common ideals. If we do not have that, then we are a Community of Activists that are dysfunctional. And as any in any entity that is dysfunctional, we need to correct that so our voice is heard correctly and not that which provides a voice divided.
We all work together, yet we have those specialities that are so desperately needed in working those ideals that are specific. But we share that common goal to meet at that same place called Equality, and there is no room for division.
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Within a macrocosm such as the activism across the LGBTIQA Community, there are many aspects of it that are shared by all, not shared by all and of course, a fair bit of apathy across that same population.
Early on in my activism for the Trans, I was approached by a person asking why I was not out on the streets holding up a sign for healthcare reform. The person stated that I was not supportive and it was a reflection of apathy and that of uncaring for those uninsured, on my part. At that time, any number of people within the local community were active in that movement and across the nation, there must have been thousands and thousands of people active in that movement.
My answer was simple: Why are you not holding up a sign for the Trans? I see you out there supporting everything but them. You have ten bazillion friends helping you, and I am out there by myself. Am I complaining, no, simply stating the facts, simply stating that there is no one for the Trans, so, here I am. If you want to help, fine, if not, leave me alone, I am busy fighting the hate and oppression that you cannot even become to understand.
Then there is the Employment Non-Discrimination Act, and there is Marriage Equality. Some are fighting for equal rights in marriage, I am fighting for equal rights to use a bathroom.
Are we really fighting each other?
The answer is simple.
We all have our passions, we all have our calling and we all will meet at a nice place called Equality. The work of all, whether it be on the same issue or not, is important to us as a Community. And how we get there is meaningless.
At least I hope so.
”Lovely to see you again, my friendWalk along with me to the next bend” - The Moody Blues
Saturday, December 12, 2009
Repeal of Defense Of Marriage Act
Repeal of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell"
Passage of the Employment Non-Discrimination Act
(Poll is in upper right-hand corner of this page)
Friday, December 11, 2009
"Personally, I feel the post speaks for itself and of the author. With the content said as it was, the obvious rebuttal is that the author is not Trans and therefore has no qualification other than to say "I am an expert because I found nothing on Wiki that justifies one being Trans."
I have run across enough marginalization by those that detract the Trans, including the LGB's (said of the Community) to simply ignore it and press forward in education of those that think in that manner.
The obvious solution to this is simply get a copy of this (and of all of the response commentary) and use it as a good example of the description of Transphobia for that education of others."
Trust her, the "T" will never being silent as long as she is around...and she is not going away anytime soon...
Sunday, December 6, 2009
In twenty-nine states - including the State of Missouri - you can be fired from your job for any of the above reasons. In thirty-eight states - including the State of Missouri - you can be fired from your job if your employer believes that you are transgender.
While you have been out to lunch, discussing DOMA, Maine, DADT, Congress has decided that the Employment Non-Discrimination Act is not important enough to bother them. While you have been out to lunch, your employer has decided that you are gay, simply by that fancy pink silk shirt that your mother gave you for your birthday. And he fired you.
While you were out to lunch, you were fired. Do you finally get the message that while you were out to lunch, ENDA got shelved and your boss fired you, simply because he doesn't like you, because you look transgender?
Call your Congressional Delegation, tell them to put down their lunch, and pass ENDA. NOW!
No, This "T" is not Silent. No, she is not going away anytime soon. Yes, she has called her Congressional Delegation. Have you?
Monday, November 30, 2009
Do you know where I am going with this post?
RevlonRobyn has a problem. Wasn't it just last week when she was in another Community establishment listening to a drag queen, liberally calling the patrons 'Faggots?' And at the same place, this same entertainer (?) was marginalizing the Transgender Community. What about the RiverFront Times’ last issue, where their sordid story of a Transwoman, laid bare her soul, without a thought for decency. And in the issue before that, the RFT had done another story where a local drag queen at the Miss Gay America Pageant called the Transgender Community psychologically diseased. "It is!" Neither the drag queen, nor the RFT had qualms about what was published.
Don't you think it is about time for us to educate these entertainers and the RFT with some sensitivity training? Or do you want to continue to hear these words of hate, discrimination and marginalization as entertainment? Then, hearing them applied to our brothers and sisters in hate, out on the street? I think it is time we take back these words, put them in a safe and throw away the key. Next time you hear an entertainer calling you a 'faggot' or when you read the marginalization of anyone in any of the sectors of our Community in the RFT, tell them what you think.
This 'T' is not silent. And she is not going away anytime soon.
[Note: This blog was presented as part of Robyn Carolyn Montague's speech at the Community Gala on November 30th]
Saturday, November 28, 2009
Protagonist (those around the Trans, the main Character): Share. Reach. Hug. Give. Strengthen. Learn. Accept. Love.
Friday, November 27, 2009
RevlonRobyn shares from Show-Me No Hate, et al:
Tim Townsend of the St. Louis Post-Dispatch on November 11th broke the story how the St. Louis diocese funded an anti-gay marriage ballot measure in Maine.
The local Catholic money was used to pay for a ballot measure called, "Question 1," that asked Maine voters if they should take away the right of lesbians and gays to legally marry in their State. Unlike Proposition 8 in California, the right of marriage was already granted to same-sex couples by the Maine legislature and signed into law by Maine's (who is Catholic) Governor John Baldacci. This was a measure to take-away rights already granted.
Make no doubt, Saint Louis Archbishop Carlson, along with dozens of Catholic Bishops across the United States donated over $180,000 to the Maine campaign that erased Maine's new Marriage Equality law; furthermore, they donated the money during a time when the Catholic Church is cutting, slashing and closing down parishes.
It's time for St. Louis Catholics and non-Catholics; gay and straight community; to come together and peacefully tell the Archdiocese of Saint Louis, that there are better uses for the local $10,000 Catholic dollars.
Last November over 1400 St. Louisans stood on the steps of the Historic St. Louis Old Court House to show solidarity to all those affected in California after the passing of Proposition 8.
On Sunday November 29th from 11:30am to 1:30pm; in front of the St. Louis Cathedral Basilica steps, we are asking St. Louis again to stand for equality. We gather again in solidarity for those not only discriminated against in Maine - but we stand for religious tolerance and diversity in our community.
Sunday November 29th: there is no better date than the first day of Advent to rally for Equality. Sunday November 29th marks the first day of Advent, a time for Catholics and Christians to prepare or "make things holy," before the holiday. Advent literally translates to "coming" and we cannot think of any better time to "come-out" and "come-forward" as a community.
This rally is organized by:
Catholic Action Network, Holy Families Committee and Show Me No Hate
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
I find this story so totally abhorhent and demeaning not only to the subject, but also to the Transgender Community of Metropolitan St. Louis (and of course meaning all that are Trans). Whether or not the subject of this story approved this or not, the descriptions in this article go beyond decency and approach the thought of patent transphobia.
Several friends brought my attention to this article done by the River Front Times (a St. Louis 'what's happening' print/online magazine), that dealt with a Transwoman who is in some rather legal hot water. While the story in itself is sensationalistic, the RFT went beyond journalistic decency when it went into details beyond what was necessary for the point of her legal matters.
This sorry article went from those legal matters, to describing the issues she has been going through during her transition as many of the Transwomen do, the events leading up to, the issues with her family and then it really went to hell. The woman, in her interview was asked of some of the medical details of her transition. When I spoke to the woman, who called me last night, she had been of the opinion that some of the questions were simply of interest and not for the article and shared some answers that she is apparently regretting now, including intimate details of her post-surgery care.
The woman explained to me that what went from an innocuous sharing in this interview, was a sheaf of notes that the reporter kept hungrily writing. When all said and done, the article had her pretty much looking like some crazed Transgender person running around in underwear about to rally to battle like some crazed anarchist.
The article as published, denigrates the transgender community to lowest level of humanity. It delves into the most intimate secrets of our transitional health care. If you have read the article, you know exactly what I am talking about. I posted a comment to the story, in which I denounced this magazine for publishing it. No doubt the claim will be that the woman signed a release, but that should not give free license to the article as it was written. In a chat with another prominent Trans in the region, I am of the understanding she will be contacting the RFT directly.
RevlonRobyn has been sharpening her claws for a long time this morning. She has brought out her finest surgical steel files and rasps, a micrometer for that precision shaping and the bench grinder is on over in the corner to finish the precision edge.....
This 'T' remains forever non-silent.
Monday, November 23, 2009
I went to four separate memorials, and attended 10 separate preceeding and anteceding events with regard to TDOR, in less of 7 days. A busy little activist, these were lectures, workshops, discussion panels, memorial services and even a play where time stood still to honor our fallen. I can see where one might say, "hey, enough is enough," but being an activist for the Trans (hey, I'm a Trans too!) trying to bring all out into the open world, I knew it was best to do so. Of course, being a small organization just beginning to grow up, only the metro area of St Louis could be covered. And I do have a partner, and he has expressed a desire being able to get an appointment with me, as well.
The reading of the names are depressing, as one would expect. The message from the speakers at each of these events was different, in message and in the approach. The majority of these were (of course) depressing and one of these was upbeat and suggested that we change to a happier 'tone' next year. I kept an open mind and from what I saw and heard, have the following to say.
The reading of names and the method of the murders are traumatizing and very heart-breaking. The candles and vigils and marches depressing and full of grief. In one speech with 'uplifting words' was of promise and hope (as were the others) but it was the one that I liked least. And don't come crawling all over me for saying that, the person that made that one is a friend of mine at the Community Center. And after all, I am allowed my opinion.
My thought is this: With a murder of the Trans now being calculated at one every three days, the thought of promise and hope will only tend to put that hope forefront and the Trans upholding that notion alone will have a lot of second-thoughts when we reconvene next year with the new list. When the Federal Hate Crimes Law was passed, I saw any number of blog commentaries from people that expressed the 'joy' that there would be no more murders. Huh? Of course, the commentary in return brought these dimwitted people back down to earth and retrieving that 'safety plan' they had thrown into the trash.
My second thought was that these memorials were not only overal poorly attended by the LGB Community, but by the Trans themselves. The thought that we meet at several places (speaking of the St Louis Metro area) does not capture the thought of what we are trying to say to anyone. Absolutely no one heard us, except to read of the events (but not to attend them). The point of each of these memorials fell about deaf ears. A radical thought of mine is why simply have these for the Trans, we know about the deaths and what is the need to re-hash the news (yeah, I know, about to lose my Trans-card, eh?) each Nov 20th? But before declawing me for heresy, let's take another look. We need this Day of Remembrance if not simply to keep the awares about ourselves. But why not get this out in the world's face, where we take these small singular events and combine them to present our pleas in force.
Make a noise. That is what we need to be doing. A few people in a church or at a forum or workshop will never be heard. We should be congregating together, the Trans Community making a huge noise and be making those that do not attend feel a little bit contrite. The noise the LGB's make on Day of Silence is deafening. We need to make ourselves heard.
Yes, we should look at other ways to promote the Trans Community as something to be proud of, and to be proud without fear. To do this, the Trans need to come out of hiding and be seen and counted as people. Because that is what we are. No one is going to give us that chance unless we are openly out on the street and doing the things we do. And be doing this open and be doing it loud. We need to take every opportunity to voice the thought that we are here, we are proud and not going away anytime soon.
Do remember, it is not without a word of caution. The hate crimes law does not, nor will not, stop hate crimes. We need to be vigilant, for ourselves and for our brothers and sisters. Go about your day, go about what you do, but go about in vigilance and remember we are still targets of hate and discrimination. Even by the "L's" and "G's" and "B's."
But don't be a silent "T."
Sunday, November 22, 2009
Among those that kept her going in different ways were Washington University in St Louis, St Louis University, Southern Illinois University - Edwardsville, St John's Episcopal (Tower Grove) Church, Growing American Youth, LGBT Community Center of Metro St. Louis, Metropolitan Community Church of Greater St. Louis, Human Rights Campaign - St Louis, "Oh Really" Online Productions, Korner's, Novak's, Just John's, Bubby & Sissy's, Mia Rosa's, Cicero's, Mokabe's, SAGE - Metro St Louis, St. Louis Effort For Aids, That Uppity Theater Company, PROMO, Metro East Pride, and Pride St. Louis (now she wonders with whom has she forgotten?). There were the people of all of the above, yet there were more: those that wished her well, those that told her to keep the pace, those that told her to slow down. Those that agreed and those that did not, but still all unanimously, are her friends. Oh yeah: Her partner Carl and a Transcat named ‘Blu,’ and yes,.....the techs at her favorite 'claw' salon.
The word is (of course): Community. And yes, there is a "T" in that word, and it isn't silent.
Friday, November 20, 2009
Enter the Transphobic insults for the Trans: Tranny, Tranvestite, She-Male, Girly-Boy, and then ones I have been called, either directly or inherently: "Ugly Fucking Whore" and now (one with) "Transsexual Eyebrows." The only difference is everyone rushes to castigate those calling those gays 'faggots' yet marginalizes those that are Trans by looking in the other direction.
Let's see: When I began volunteering for the LGB's and their causes about eight years ago, I found evidence that it was 'not ok' to be Trans, so everyone was led to believe I was gay. So much easier. Yet later, during a cold winter, I wore tights and pantyhose under my jeans, as any girl, to keep myself warm. A Principal in a prominent local LGB Organization, noticed this one day, spotting them through a hole in the leg of my jeans. He proceeded to make rude comments to me which I found rather derogatory. I was also thinking 'hey, I thought I was part of this Community that is fighting hate.' Apparently not. Suffice to say that jerk (who is still around the St Louis Community) can be solely noted as one person who made me think once again, and delayed my transition by two years. Simply from the thought that the Trans were not welcome.
Early this past Summer, I went to Metro East Pride Festival, in Belleville, Illinois. I was in transition, living full life in my proper gender identity. As I walked up and down the streets, I saw the LGB's stopping to stare and point at me, the thought coming to my head as: "Hey, look, one of those "T's." The stares and glares proceeded throughout the day, including two lesbians openly commenting on my (slim) form fitting 'daisy-duke' short-shorts. The thought in my head was "bitch, because I can wear them, unlike you."
But what really frosted me about the transphobia at this event there in Belleville (my mother's childhood town), was the next day in the city of O'Fallon, Mo, a hotbed of nearly total conservatism, where I was in a local department store, being called "Ma'am" and "Miss" and "may I hold the door for you." What's up with that, eh?
Then sometime this past October, I was sitting in a Community night club, talking to my partner. A drunk gay came up to be and said I was ugly. He proceeded to go down a list of disturbing, transphobic names and phrases, finally with a "you're a ugly fucking whore." Before I had a chance to stand up and rearrange his face with my claws, the owner of the bar (who had come into the room) grabbed this jerk and hauled him out the front door. A few minutes later, this jerk came back in, and was about to come over once again, but I stood up and I guess being a foot taller than him, convinced him to re-think his valor. He then walked down along the wall, but was noticed, and hauled out the front door once again...
Then last evening, after attending two separate Transgender Day of Remembrance events, of which one was so distressfully full of personal grief. Afterwards, I went to a local nightclub, known for it's drag shows now and then. Everything seemed fine, despite the foul mouth drag queen who was the Emcee, spouting his liberal use of homophobic phrases, his favorite being 'Faggot.' He then took up with the insulting of an apparent straight female, finally referring to her 'Transsexual Eyebrows.' It took a moment before the thought set in: Those that are Transsexual, can be identified by their eyebrows. He was in inference, insulting her for being Transsexual (though she wasn't) and used her eyebrows as evidence. The humor escapes me that it is okay to marginalize one being Trans. Which is what he did.
Think about it: We, that are Trans, live in certain fears, that of losing friends and family, losing our jobs and we are being murdered, since apparently we have no worth. Think about being marginalized as being less than human by some transphobic members (?) of the Community. Not once, not twice, but many times. It is not a joke, it's called Transphobia. And Transphobia is killing one of my brothers and sisters, every three days.
This 'T' will never be silent again.
Friday, November 13, 2009
Noting that Phelps and his clan of clones will be picketing an educator that is Trans at Kansas State University on the 23rd, RevlonRobyn (who will be in KC for an activist's luncheon) is thinking of joining in any counter protest there....
Thursday, November 12, 2009
"Remind me not to invite this 'person' over for tea. And when the LGB's come over yet again and again looking for donations and handing out invitations for fundraising events for the 'cisgender agenda,' remind me to give them a copy of this article instead.
What is infuriating about this article, is that it cheerfully and without caution, threatening all the efforts and energy expended towards Trans inclusion as part of the Community. And the Tran's inclusion of the L's and G's and B's (said as a Community, of course). These comments make the old HRC / Trans rift seem like a childrens spat over which Barbie doll one gets to play with...
My point is simple: We should be working together as a Community for a purpose, that being inclusive and not devisive. Working my activism in the (St Louis) Community (which I do inclusivly for the ENTIRE community), I was appalled to find that in room of about 75 people (95% LGB), over two thirds of them thought that ENDA was something special for the Trans! When they heard that here in Missouri that they could be fired for being "LGB" they were totally shocked. Activism? Where in the hell were the LGB activists of STL? How come it took a TRANS activist to get them to listen?
This article is incredibly dumb. And don't get me riled up on the numbers of the Trans population, the fact is we haven't been counted. And with her transphobic approach to activism, maybe we never will. Thanks. Hmmmmm, checking in my bag, I have a few extra dollars...since I no longer need to earmark this for LGB causes, maybe a new pair of shoes is in order....(and the Revlon Red claws need sharpening)."
This 'T' isn't silent.
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Robyn spoke at the Rainbow Alliance last evening, the LGTIQAXYZ123 ;) group at St Louis University. A cross between 'TRANS 101' and 'TransAction 101' she spoke on such things running from etiquette in conversation to hate crimes. She made the statement that the 'Trans are still so excluded, that Fred Phelps (GodHatesFags) doesn't even make a remark about them on his websites of hate.' The statement brought out a good laugh, but Robyn continued on, stating that 'actually it is a bad thought, in that his (Phelps) hate refuses to recognize the Trans as people.'
Friday, November 6, 2009
RevlonRobyn has been following a lot of the rhetoric from the 'mouths of babes' with regard the loss in Maine. People blaming these folks, those folks, HRC, etc. C'mon, get with it. Everyone instead of getting back to work on issues like that, are spending all that good activism energy writing letters blaming people, etc. on Maine. Duh. It's over, let's move out and work to correct that....
(feels good to stretch out the Revlon Red claws)